Networking Tips for Introverts: 3 Mistakes That Hold You Back (and How to Overcome Them)

If you’re an introvert, walking into a crowded networking event can feel overwhelming. I've been there and I know the feeling well. The awkward shuffle near the snack table, the racing thoughts about what to say, and the temptation to slip out early. 

I recently shared a post on my social media pages about the top three mistakes introverts make at networking events, and it resonated ​with so many people.

In this blog, we’ll dive deeper. You’ll learn the three most common mistakes that hold introverts back and practical strategies to turn those challenges into opportunities for genuine, meaningful connections.

Mistake #1 

Sticking to the Sidelines 

 
It’s easy to hang back near the wall, food table, or entrance when you’re not sure how to jump into conversations. The problem? Staying on the sidelines sends a signal that you’re not open to connecting, making it harder for others to approach you. 

Try this instead: Position yourself near areas of natural flow like the coffee station or registration desk. These spots invite casual conversations (“How’s the coffee?” or “Is this your first time here?”) that make introductions easier. You can also find more strategies like this in my book, The Introvert's Guide to Becoming a Master Networker, where I share personal networking stories and tips. 

Mistake #2

Overthinking Conversations

 
Introverts are great thinkers, but too much thinking can backfire. You might focus so much on saying the “perfect” thing that you miss the chance for a natural, authentic exchange.

Try this instead: Shift the focus away from yourself by asking open-ended questions like:

• “What brought you here today?”
• “Tell me more about what you do.”
• “What’s the best part of your work?”

For more in-depth guidance on building confidence and starting authentic conversations, check out my digital course, Networking School, where I walk you step-by-step through practical exercises designed for introverts.

Mistake #3

Leaving Too Early 

Networking can feel draining, and it’s tempting to leave once you’ve said a quick hello. But ducking out early often means missing the best opportunities, the meaningful conversations that happen once people start to settle in.

Try this instead: Set a simple goal before you arrive. For example: “I’ll have three genuine conversations before I leave.” Once you meet your goal, you’ll know you’ve made the most of your time and you may even feel energized to stay a little longer.

Quick Takeaways for Introverts

• Avoid hiding on the sidelines — position yourself in conversation-friendly spaces.
• Stop overthinking — focus on asking thoughtful questions instead.
• Don’t slip out too soon — set a simple connection goal before you arrive.

Networking as an introvert doesn’t have to feel like an uphill battle. With small shifts in how you show up, you can create authentic connections that lead to real opportunities.

If you’d like more support in building your networking confidence, check out Networking School — a digital course designed to help you grow your career through authentic connections. For more stories, insights, and practical tips, explore my book The Introvert's Guide to Becoming a Master Networker, to dive deeper into real-world networking experiences.